The mystery of happiness!

 The mystery of happiness!
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1, for now you have to live
only now. Inner peace, the effectiveness of the work, all depends on how we live to the present moment. regardless of how many things have happened yesterday, and regardless of what is coming tomorrow, you never exposure to above.
children the most wonderful thing is that they will be completely immersed in the present moment there. whether it is observed beetles, painting, building sand castles or engage in any activities, they can be absorbed.
high school students think: dark decide: fail to get him. Year after year passed, he continued to gain happiness and peace of mind, move the date back until he engaged, get married, buy a house, for a better job, retired the last in the enjoyment of supreme hh happy before he died. He put all his plans now for a better future never realized.
you heard this story, I feel heart again? Do you know some stay forever happy to the next person? The secret of happiness, the truth is very simple, your life must be present for the center, our journey in life, fun, and not just leave it to the finish with.
live now , that is, we are now engaged in the work itself to find each piece of the fun, not just expect it to final results. If you are painting the house balcony, every piece of brush would have to make you feel happy to help you learn how to do Good job. you should enjoy the spring breeze blowing, listening to birds singing in the hospital, and all around.
to live up to now, we expand their senses, realize that every moment is all the beauty. Every minute, every second, every person is free to choose whether you want to really live up to now, absorbing everything around so that they are moved by the affected.
2, you do not care to wait
is there such an experiment: When you are waiting for a taxi, it is not there? and other things seem to always be the case. So Popular Yan says: . up.
in that case, there is a treatment principle: pleasure and satisfaction. , and I will never forgive his mother! improve the current situation, I would rather live in the past, but this result blaming others (or themselves) head. > Christmas my friend does not please me, I would not forgive him, I suffer. He does not have ulcers, do not sleep, not angry, not bitter mouth, there will be those reflect me. No wonder ancient sages have told me: in addition, identified as one wrong as long as we are people, they should be responsible to make us happy, we will not take responsibility. blaming others will not have any results. From the moment to stop blaming others, we would take to improve action. blame others is an excuse to escape, an excuse for inaction.
choose to forgive, the situation will change through a magical track. When we change, others will follow the change. we change the attitude of others. In our revised view of things at the same time, others will as we respond to new expectations.
not easy to forgive others, forgive yourself even harder. lot of people live for some of the shortcomings of self-righteous in their own mental and physical punishment . Some people overeat, some people intentionally starving, unconscious drunk some alcohol, some people deliberately destroyed all the relationships, some people a lifetime of poverty or disease-ridden. In all of these may have a back pain faith, insisted that: being, I believe they should live a healthy and happy little surprisingly.
4, What is happiness
Lincoln said: impact, in fact, far less than the response of our more important things.
unemployment when Fred may think this is the opportunity to try new, explore new possibilities, a good chance of independence. But his brother, Bill, in the same circumstances has decided to jump off the 20-story building, once and for all. exactly the same situation, a person in high spirits and the other people have committed suicide! a person in the eyes of evil is another opportunity for the eyes.
happy it is not so easy things. Sometimes it is regarded as the greatest challenge in life, you need to put all the determination, perseverance, self-control. mature representatives responsible for their own pleasure, to focus on everything I already have, rather than on things that have not been on .
a human heart can not control the thinking of others, so happy you are feeling controlled by their own hands. people can not put thoughts into your head hard, it is necessary to seek happiness, you must think happy things to concentrate on However, we often do the opposite? me with you always is not to mind other people's praise, but it is unpleasant, then one or two days of raw gas? Perhaps you are not allowed to occupy a pleasant experience or abusive your soul, the consequences can only be themselves. Remember, you are the master of his thoughts. Most people only remember a few of the good things, bad things about a few years was able to forget. They are like people who refuse collection, the 20 years ago, carrying people throw their garbage everywhere.
happy sometimes need to work to be done, like keeping the home clean and beautiful, you have to display all the good things out of discarded rubbish. Happiness is the search for the good life , Someone saw the beautiful scenery, was seen dirty windows. to see what to do on your own choice of ideology.
5, perfect and happy
unhappy because life is incompatible with the expectations. Our request can not be satisfied, that life is not it , frustration, success, failure, and proposed conditions of happiness is self-deception.
environment from the heart, happy on their own decision. a lot of people life's way of life, as if one day they will arrive in a name called ; the work station. They believe that one day all things will become completely conform to the ideal, when they can take a break, said: Anyway, I will be happy the future?
the following passage, a 85-year-old, that he would soon write the old gentleman who, it is worth a read:
many mistakes. I would not be the pursuit of perfection. I want to get more rest, with the desire and safety, I am a person not like this so smart. In fact, care about what the world is worth very little. I will be more insane it is, will not so particular about hygiene. You know, I'm the kind of day to day, an hour and an hour, flies careful, sober and reasonable people. Oh, I have been indulgent, if everything can be again, I want to enjoy a more of that moment, every moment, every minute, every second. Carousel, read several times and sunrise, with more children to play, as long as life can be again. But you know, not a. increase utilization. The old man knew, to live happier, more fulfilling, do not change the world. The world has enough for the United States, the need to change is yourself.
the world should not have depends not real happy with them development, if not do so, we can still happy.
there was a rush for the Indian master of the disciples to meet, said:
Editor: quasi-Buddhist Institute
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